When I think about the first time I had oral sex, I remember it being as disappointing and awkward as it was hilarious — and I don't think my story is a unique one. The truth is, there's just a lot of things no one tells you about oral sex. If you've ever given or received oral sex, then you already know that doing it for the first time comes with more than a few surprises.
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Sophomore year of high school, I was on my way to the locker room in my dance team uniform after a football game we'd lost. Still in his football gear, his jaw was clenched and he was tearing the pep rally "Go team! I froze as he passed by and continued down the hallway ripping signs.
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Sometimes, you just have to jump in. For many women and some men who are interested in having sex with a woman for the first time, the idea of cunnilingus can be pretty intimidating. I was also really nervous about my first time going down on a woman and, after some drunken attempts, I was even more nervous about doing it sober for the first time.
The Saturday just gone was the day I caught ucky ucky — otherwise known as "head", "sloppy" or "Boris Johnson" — for the very first time. And goodness me, there were a few surprises. I'd like to believe I'm a pretty innocent year-old who lives a fairly guiltless life.
Oral sex is something many of us get hung up on because all bodies are different, so eating someone out for the first time can be kinda nerve wracking. Even if you have a clit and vagina yourself, what feels good for you when you're on the receiving end doesn't necessarily do it for someone else. Sure, the best thing to do is ask someone what they like.
Illustration by Camilla Ru. My First Time is a column and podcast series exploring sexuality, gender, and kink with the wide-eyed curiosity of a virgin. We all know your "first time" is about a lot more than just popping your cherry.
Having oral sex with another woman is one of the great things about being a lesbian. Oral sex can seem intimidating for first-timers, but it's a skill that you can work on and improve over time. Regardless, no two women are the same—and each might like something a little different than the other. One of the most exciting things about being with a new partner can be getting that first glimpse of her pubic region.